It’s easy and common to gradually become disconnected from the people we love the most. This is apparent in many marriages, particularly when children are involved. It’s easy to get swept away in kids’ activities, social commitments, business obligations and the chronic stuff that keeps us preoccupied. This well-intentioned busyness can fiercely compete for time with our most important relationships.

If, overnight, we became dramatically distanced, we would notice it and remedy the situation immediately. If we put on 10 pounds overnight, we’d take action to fix that as well. Since the relational gap happens little by little, it’s easy and common to become accustomed to it. Rather than fighting for our priorities, it’s easy and common to simply accept things the way they are.

You are probably aware of this relationship dynamic, but what are you doing about it today? Pause for four minutes and consider these questions bluntly. What is the goal of your marriage? Who controls the pace of your life? In what areas are your relationship priorities and daily habits in conflict? What are the 30 Day, One Year, and Ten Year consequences of allowing other stuff to get in the way of your marriage today?

You can, if you choose, prioritize your time to fit your goals. This will NOT be easy and it is certainly not common. It is definitely worth thinking about!

What do you think?

Coach