In Philippians 4:8 the Apostle Paul challenges us to fix our minds on what is excellent and worthy of praise! Nowhere is this advice more valuable than in marriage. Every thought you think about your spouse either moves you toward your best relationship or it moves you further away. Just thinking critically about your spouse, even if you believe it is warranted, will interrupt and postpone true intimacy and the closeness you both desire. As relentlessly as you may try, you cannot think one thing about your mate and experience something different in the relationship. And the more frequently you think about something, the tighter the grip it exerts on you, the decisions you make, and the actions you take.  In what way might you be over-emphasizing a previous disappointment or struggle in your marriage? 

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