If you are aware of this principle, it can lift you up quicker than just about anything else, but if you aren’t aware, it can pull you down just as fast. Yikes!
Don’t wrestle with a pig. You will end up getting dirty. The pig will like it.
The bucket of crabs. When one crab tries to climb out of the bucket, the other crabs will reach up and pull that runaway crab back down with the rest of the crowd. This is just like humans.
Misery (and mediocrity) seek companionship – Those who are not growth-oriented are actively recruiting others to keep them company. Be on the look-out for these folks.
“Associate yourself with men of good quality if you esteem your own reputation; for it is better to be alone than in bad company.” – George Washington
“Do not be fooled, bad company corrupts good character.” – I Corinthians 15:33
“Our associations are like the buttons on an elevator; they either lift us up or pull us down.” -Coach
The people we hang out with the most influence our thinking. If they influence our thinking, they affect everything else that happens to us.
Relationships have consequences.
Many natural laws aren’t convenient or nice. If you walk off a cliff, gravity will bring you down. This is not unfair or mean spirited; it is just gravity.
Likewise, it is an inescapable fact of life that sometimes the law of association will be inconvenient. Some people you hang around are harmful and toxic.
We are sponges.
We soak up the exposures around us. We become like the people we hang out with the most.
“The Nudge Principle”
We do not get punched or kicked off track in life. How do we get off track? We get off track just a little bit at a time. The negative individuals in our life nudge us off track just a little bit at a time. It can be so subtle that we hardly notice.
Be intentional with the people in your life.
Think through the people you spend most of your time with. When you’re thinking about who you spend your time with. Are you spending your time? Or are you investing your time?
How to evaluate your relationships?
Red relationships: People you shouldn’t spend time with at all.
Most people have only 1 or 2 people like this in their life.
Yellow relationships: People who you need to be careful around or limit exposure.
This might be the biggest category. People in this category aren’t aligned with your goals and values.
Green relationships: People who lift you up and move you toward the person you want to become.
Be intentional about spending most of your time with these people. Make sure your close friends are in the green.
“Make sure you’re not spending major league time with minor league people.” – Jim Rohn
When it comes to your most important relationships, the influence that they can have on you is profound. Avoid denying this truth.
Why does all this matter?
You have a legacy you are working toward… and Your Success Blesses Others!